Throughout much of my life, I have unconsciously abided by an unwritten code; one that is simple to apprehend, difficult at times to apply, but always rewarding in the long run, when followed faithfully.
This simple philosophy is much like the law of reciprocity, popularly known as the Golden Rule.
The Golden Rule can be found in countless traditions and philosophies around the world.
These traditions date back thousands and thousands of years, to places like ancient Egypt, China, Greece, Rome, and Persia, amongst others.
The implications are magnificent to contemplate; Despite being separated geographically, mankind shares a common ethics and ideology. Despite being separated by thousands of years that have been canonized by war, the desire to live in peace remains unchanged.
Although I have the utmost respect and admiration for the Golden Rule, it still remains incomplete because it does not address an imperative topic; how to deal with those who unapologetically violate its doctrine.
DO NO HARM, BUT TAKE NO SHIT
It is fairly common knowledge that you should always treat others with kindness and respect, just as you would like to be treated. If someone is clearly treating you with disrespect however, don’t stoop to their level like a fool, but don’t tolerate their bullshit either. Because to tolerate bad behavior, is to accept it; and to accept that which should certainly be rejected, indirectly reinforces it as being okay in the mind of the perpetrator.
Obviously a certain level of pragmatic logic needs to be exercised in these particular instances; as the saying goes, if we were to stop and throw stones at every dog that barks at us, we would never reach our destination. So let childish irrelevancies be, but always challenge that which clearly should be challenged. We must learn how to deal with conflict in a healthy way, not hide from it. Because whether we like it or not, it is a part of life. Avoiding that which is socially unacceptable does not eliminate its sinister presence, it only encourages it.
Even if you are scared or nervous, you must stand up for yourself. Whatever the consequences may be, they will pale in comparison to the feeling of regret and betrayal of self that you must live with every day if you choose to be silent. By avoiding the shared responsibility that we each hold of challenging injustice, we choose to debilitate our personal growth, and our growth as a society. We unconsciously choose to live in a world where bullies and oppressors thrive, even though they account for a very small minority.
Each time we do choose to stand up for ourselves though — not only does it become easier to do — but with each small victory over injustice, our confidence and courage to face it, and overcome it, on larger platforms grows. This then helps us later in all aspects of life and reflects on our society at large. Do no harm, but take no shit.
Note from Gary: There is more than one way to 'take no shit.' One is to enter timelessness and be an example of compassion, a constant sun beaming unconditional love. There may be instances where taking a stand in a more physical way is called for. Then, it can be done not from anger or righteousness, which are emotional imbalances, but from centered certainty and a resolute will.
I have found the Heart Breathing key phrases to be most helpful when more aggressive disagreements arise. One is to detach myself from that contracting energy, not entangling in it, and saying, 'I honor your perspective' and letting it go. That can defuse the situation and allow the 'other' to find their own center.
Another is to say silently, 'I am that,' removing barriers of emotional contraction between one another. An especially potent key phrase for me is 'I choose to be timeless.' Any of these can be changed to suit the individual. For more on timelessness, it is suggested to read the blog posts:
Phillip George Cowie You don't deal with them. Let them be and just try to stay out of their way. Duality dictates that if theres a golden rule then there must be its opposite. And duality rules this universe and existence. So while the golden rule is one side of the coin, the violation of the golden rule is merely the other side. Both are necessary and so unfortunately life is not ideal.
Unity/oneness/singularity might depend on the acceptance of this. Leave both sides to be what they are without the one trying to change/judge the other and that will be peace.